What is therapy like?
The concern that most prospective clients have is what to expect from therapy. In our first meeting we will review the forms that you will fill out and sign so that I am well informed about your history and what has brought you to seek help. Sessions typically are 50 minutes and on a weekly basis for best results. You are encouraged to actively participate, as will I when appropriate. You may come in with a specific problem while at other times you may need help identifying the issue and the explicit feeling(s) you are experiencing. This is a natural part of the therapeutic process. The ultimate purpose of therapy is to help you bring what you learn into your daily life so that you are able to live with greater ease and joy.
How long will it take to resolve my problems?
This is a difficult question for any therapist to answer because every person is an individual with unique needs. Friends and family can be a wonderful source of support but don't have the professional training to guide you through deeply held beliefs that are no longer helpful or preventing you from growing and developing meaningful and lasting relationships.
Each therapist works differently and has their own theoretical perspective. I have found that drawing on different theories, education, empowering, and teaching skills is most helpful for my clients. Therefore, I will use an eclectic approach as well as life experiences to help you reach the growth and healing you want. I do this with the utmost respect for your steady progress in making sustainable change.
What is grief counseling?
Grief counseling takes you through the tasks of mourning. My primary concern is to make a comfortable place for you to experience the pain, adjust to being on your own, and eventually accept the reality of your loss.
It is important to understand and accept that each person grieves in their own way and timing. I say this because of the many clients I’ve worked with who believe that they should feel better sooner than they do.
As self care is often abandoned in this period of confusion, I will encourage, support, and guide you in developing healthful living habits and maintaining and creating a support system outside of therapy.
Realistically I cannot relieve your suffering but can tolerate any and all expressions of your anguish and feelings. Through acceptance, nonjudgmental listening and education, I will always do my best to plant the seeds of hope that you will heal and find meaning one day, no matter what the loss (death, divorce, illness, job layoff, holiday isolation, suicide, miscarriage, moving homes, and more).
You will recognize symptoms of inner peace as you experience some of the following:
clarity in thinking
absence of ongoing inner conflict
absence of free-floating anxiety and worry
the ability to think and act spontaneously, rather than from fear
an unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment; smiling and laughing more
We never forget our loved one, thus 'get over' a significant loss. We can however, rebuild our lives and find a 'new normal'.
Grief counseling is discovering what is lost, what is left, and what is possible!
How do I find the right therapist for me?
The relationship between a client and therapist is unique and I believe is the foundation for the work to be successful. All therapists have similar training, with the exception of furthering their education and acquiring a special area of focus. Only you can determine how comfortable you feel with a person, and for some people it may take two to three sessions.
"Let your heart guide you. It whispers, so listen closely." ~ Molly Goode, 20th Century American Writer